Monday, January 12

The following post is for my UNGAS, EMO fren call'd BOI PIKET [para sa matinding dinadala mo, bro!]

The difference between bois and gels in the middle of dating:

Gels tend to think that everything is going too FAST. That a man's emotions is getting left behind by his actions and therefore needs some catching up before they should proceed. Meaning both emotions should be clearly sorted out, that tha gel should feel no doubt any more, that she should KNOW tha man fully first, that he should invest MORE, etc. This springs from fear to be PLAYED, HURT, USED, and later on DUMPED when she's already IN LOVE. She is afraid that he is NOT REALLY IN LOVE.

Bois on the other hand, thinks that everything is going too SLOW. That the action is not catching up with how much he has already invested in her and that the action is being left behind by too much GETTING TO KNOW and therefore needs some catching up before they should proceed. Meaning that he wants the woman to give him her love and not make him wait any longer than necessary. This springs from fear to be PLAYED, HURT, USED, and later on DUMPED when he's already IN LOVE. He is afraid that she is NOT REALLY IN LOVE.

So how should bois and gels resolve this? Sometimes, one gender will suddenly feel that he or she is at tha losing end or that he/she has had enuf. When this person feels it, he or she will walk away. When that happens tha other person will make things right. Doesn't always work though if the person who'll do tha appeasement is a really insecure person or one who has lotsa pride.

It's always just a constatnt struggle in trying to strive for that equality and giving/getting your gender's fair share of benefits all the time.

Saturday, January 3

No matter what, I want to continue living with the awareness that I will die. Without that, I am not alive. - Banana Yoshimoto